Seminar for Men on Guilt, Shame and Bliss
There are many possible causes for the trouble and confusion men experience when it comes to relating to women. Yet two of the most impactful factors for insecurity and dissatisfaction are often overlooked: shame and guilt.
Blocking charisma, freezing action, sabotaging courageous steps…
The tragic thing is that male shame and guilt are often overlooked as if they would be minor factors. They are embedded so deeply in every man we simply have no idea of how a man would approach a woman (and the rest of his life) without these layers of doubt and hiding.
After years of research around these dynamics, it’s clear that shame and guilt are THE basic ingredient for trouble when it comes to men relating to women…
… encompassing the full spectrum of our social lives: in our communities and families, regarding communication, boundaries, making sense of our desires, and more.
… especially including the sphere of intimate friendships and sexuality – from an initial meeting (or not!), to committed, lasting relationships.
Shame and guilt are ingredients for breaking inner power and innate potential for freedom, vibrancy, and creative influence – to reduce aliveness and capacity to change our world.
These are the basic and essential tools for maintaining this pervasive game of control. The absence of self-trust and free expression is essential to the continuation of our culture.
#UntamingTheDragon is an intense embodied experience for men who are open for
- claiming full self-responsibility for their sense of freedom and fulfillment regarding women
- discovering where shame and guilt are subconsciuosly sabotaging their lives
- practicing a radical and unconventional way of un-learning shame and guilt
- and finding an easier and more authentic approach to women.
#UntamingTheDragon will be held in English, for men* with any relationship status (single, partnered – monogamous, non-monogamous)
The seminar will be filmed and recorded for the following purposes:
- For all participants to receive recordings of the exercises to use at home (not public)
- Excerpts of Ilan speaking for our library, youtube and other digital publications (not participants)
Anyone filmed or recorded will receive the final cut before publication (relevant participants will be given the opportunity to approve/deny/ask for certain edits if their personal information, voice, or image is used in any way)
*Respect to those doing important work of bringing awareness and evolution to the violence in our language and identity politics – with reverence and consideration we choose to use traditional, normative language around identity and orientation for the sake of accessibility and inclusion for our particular community for this event
Organization, Info & Registration via David Lion
It will also be held in Berlin in German in May 2020. All Info for the German event here.